I have gathered some useful tricks or hacks that can be useful while raising our children.
Let’s have a look.
Psychologist Dr. Paul Jenkins says parents should try to turn their words from “Garbage to Cold.” In simple words, when we shout aggressively all our speech become have garbage value, it doesn’t impact anybody positively. If we throw this garbage towards our children, sooner or later children will throw the same garbage towards us.
So, we should try to remain calm, keep our cool and after getting our control over emotions we should talk with our children somewhat toned down.
2) Think like Child:
As parents, we all want our children should listen to us. So the first thing is,
“Think like Child”, because if children are doing something or playing with some toys and they think it is important for them, why would they want to leave it?
For example, if your child loves to play a ball game and you tell him to come and Eat first, why would he/she want to do that?
3) Train the Brain:
In this case, “Train the Brain” tips comes in to the picture means to say it once without yelling. If your child does not listen, then you should also tell him/her what the consequences are.
Explain him/her that we are all eating and if you don’t eat with us then, later you will have to eat alone. So eventually he/she will know that now food is important. That is how you can easily explain it to him/her, in addition you don’t even have to shout for it.
4) Be consistent and Stay Firm:
Parents should act like “Be Consistent & Stay Firm” that means we should be consistent in our behavior. If there is no consistency in our behavior, then children start to insist on what they want, so we need to be very firm. From this they know that we should listen to our parents.
5) “Get your Triggers”: Often parents voice rises for trivial reasons, and it directly affects the children.
Like today, fathers are under a lot of stress in the office and when they come back home, they often got angry with their children or wife without realizing it, they hurt their children,loved ones unknowingly.
So we should always try to control our emotions because, indirectly, we are setting a model for them. Don’t forget kids are always watching you. So, obviously we cannot let it get out of control.
6) Keep Calm voice, Calm Face, Calm Body:
Finally, the most important thing is “Keep Calm voice, Calm face, Calm body.
In a longer run children will learn from us that, even if something is happening against our mind, we should keep our cool.
For the same reason, we have to learn the formula P for Parent = P for Patience.
Certainly don’t forget, your motto is just love your children no matter what.
I have provided the link of Psychologist Dr.Paul Jenkins video for your reference.
Thank you.
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